An Update on my Personal Life

This may not be a very “desi-like” thing to do, but it’s time for me to share some personal news. If you go back to my first post, you’ll read about the challenges I faced in my own in-law relationships  Since then, however, there have been a lot of positive changes that I’m very excited to share.

First off, a very special congratulations to my brother-in-law (BIL) and soon-to-be sister-in-law (SIL). Yes, that means they’re getting married! We’re just a few weeks away from the joyous occasion, and while my husband and I have been helping to plan multiple events for the happy couple, we’ve noticed something interesting: I’m truly feeling that my husband’s family is my family. I’ve become much more protective and possessive, and I’m looking forward to my new role as the older Bhabi (sister-in-law). And of course, this means that my brother-in-law will be moving out and becoming completely self-sufficient. That’s a hugely positive step for him as he moves on to the next phase in his life. He‘s worked very hard the past couple years, and my husband and I have been blown away with the growth and maturity he‘s shown.

More great news: my mother-in-law (MIL) did something that’s almost unheard of amongst older Desis: she went back to school! She’s taking Early Childhood Education classes and hopes to eventually work as a teacher’s assistant. That’s an amazingly positive step for my MIL, and seeing her take it and watching her enhance her life in a positive way has made me so much happier. As a social worker, it’s hard for me to see healthy, competent people stuck in a stagnant and unhappy state, so this is one of the most positive and beneficial changes that I could‘ve asked for.

All of these developments are great for my husband and I since we’re now exploring additional ways to increase our privacy and working on strengthening our relationship before we embark on our next adventure: Kids. As for the people who always think I’m pregnant, I’m not. We’re just planning right now. But we also believe that fate will run it‘s course.

My in-laws and I have faced our share of challenges together, but I feel that we also helped each other grow so much in the process. I’m truly excited for my BIL, MIL, soon-to-be SIL, as well as for my husband and myself. Our experiences go to show that, while in-law relationships can be difficult at times, working through the challenges together can be rewarding for everyone involved. I will continue to think positively, practice patience, and look forward to a great present and future. I wish you all the same!